First and foremost, make sure that your confidence and body language are on point. Always look people in the eye – gazing at an imaginary triangle can help. The base of it is the eyes, and the apex is mid-forehead. Keep your gaze in that area and people will know you mean business. Never gaze from the eyes to the mouth, as this will help prevent unwanted workplace flirting. Perfect your firm handshake, stand up straight and avoid head tilts.
Don’t speak meekly or be afraid to take up space. Present yourself like a boss bitch and people will take note and eventually get on your level.
Mindy Kaling once said, “My parents raised me with the entitlement of a tall, blond, white man.” While this is a controversial statement, it’s one that we generally support, and feel is an effective confidence builder. Working with men can feel intimidating or aggressive, and when you act like a businesswomen, the moniker “bitch” is often used. Don’t let anyone use that as a synonym for the assertive, powerful and outspoken leadership qualities that you have.
Don’t let negativity drag you down.
If anyone in your life is feeding you toxic thoughts and words, cut them off so you can let yourself fully thrive.
Try to focus on only including positive energy in your life, and that means the way you see yourself as well! Social media affects women whether we want to admit it or not, and in world of body shaming, constant comparisons of measured success or appearance, it can be easy to get bogged down by negativity.
Never compare your hustle to anyone else, but feel free to get inspired by other lady bosses! It’s also important to be able to accept your moments of weakness and still love yourself amidst them, but know the difference between acceptance and wallowing. It’s ok to cry, but never let them see your tears. Keep your composure and never let a man use the excuse that you’re being “emotional”. Just know that he’s suffering from ignorance and a bad case of man-splaining, and move on with your life.
In world of social media, body shaming, sexual harassment it can be hard to not, but focusing on the positive is one of the keys to your success. So is accepting your weak moments, but know the difference between that and wallowing in them. It’s ok to cry, but never let them see your tears. Keep your composure and never let a man use the excuse that you’re being “emotional”. Remember that amidst the toxic energy, a women’s revolution is taking over. Let movements like #metoo and #timesup propel you forward and motivate you.
Independence is also crucial in finessing your boss game. Try not to rely on anyone for anything; we all need emotional support and to lean on others in time of need, but try to stay as self-sufficient as possible, especially in a financial context. Focus on being there for yourself, and self growth. Ultimately, take note from your boss bitch role models, but be your own she-ro.